10:58 AM A blogger has raised the question about widows in 1 Timothy 5. Pursuant to that discussion, I’d like to ponder aloud with you the definition that Paul gives of a “true widow” in 1 Tim. 5:9-10. Men, please listen closely. Can these qualities describe your wife?
She must have been married only once.
She must have a reputation for good deeds.
She must have brought up her children well.
She must have received strangers in her home.
She must have performed humble duties for fellow Christians.
She must have helped people in trouble.
She must have devoted herself to doing good.
Again, marriage isn’t complicated. It’s not about finding the right person; it’s about being the right person. The blessings described here have nothing to do with tangible possessions or external looks. Rather, Paul is describing the essentials that make a life full and meaningful — things like good relationships, sacrificial living, and devotion to duty. Becky and I are now in the empty nest phase of our marriage where we are living alone until one of us dies. We have two options at this stage of the game: Become bitter, narrow-minded victims of self-pity, or become conduits of encouragement and ministry. I recall an elderly couple whom we knew when we lived in California. Both had been widowed, had found each other and fallen in love, and then remarried. I’ve never met a more alive, involved, and positive couple. Retirement did not mean inactivity for them. They “performed humble duties, helped people in trouble, and devoted themselves to doing good.”
That’s a life worth emulating, especially as we get older!